flavors101 said: what are the men in nyc like? what's the dating scene like? im moving there soon and i read the guys are extremely arrogant.
When people ask me how Portland was, I keep telling them that I was bored but that my self-esteem is really good now. And that’s really important. To everything, dating included. Because I think dating in any place is largely about you, the dater in question. As long as you understand that WHEREVER you go there are lots of terrible people around you and lots of awesome people around you, and lots of people that are awesome but not in a way that meshes well with your awesome, you’ll be ok I think.
Because as much fun as it is to NOPE and ‘all dudes are the worst’ and be mean to them on Tinder, they are actually all people and we owe them more fairness.
I mean I haven’t started dating in New York again yet, because I just got back on Wednesday, but you know.
Basically a combination of that Taylor Swift quote "I think everyone should approach relationships from the perspective of playing it straight and giving someone the benefit of the doubt. Until he establishes that this is a game. And if it’s a game, you need to win. The best thing to do is just walk away from the table," and, "Clear eyes. Full hearts. Can’t lose." Basically, assume people will be great and generous and fun and good, but also be aware of how they make you feel and as soon as it’s “Not good” more than it’s “good,” stop hanging with them, don’t assume it says anything about you, and let them go off into the great ether of “people who no longer factor into your life at all and it’s fine,” and think about them as little as possible.
Basically, the world and therefore New York IS full of great and generous and fun and good people of both genders, but also full of extremely arrogant and terrible people of both genders: assume you’ll meet the former, keep your eyes open for the latter, and don’t let anybody, great or terrible, fuck with your sense of self because we are all way too busy having fun and becoming better versions of ourselves and exploring the world to have time for that.
I didn’t really answer your question, but I kind of answered your question, right?